Writing is a solitary undertaking. True or False?
When I first started writing a certain number of years ago, I didn’t know any other writers. I was just eager to sit down and write, happy to finally be finding the time to be creative again after a hiatus due to jobs, marriage, kids – you know, life stuff.
I was excited, alone, but not realizing it could be any different. Don’t get me wrong, I would have liked to have met other writers at that point, but the fact that I didn’t know any didn’t bother me. I was writing, I was happy. I delved into my world, my characters, my 4-book story (I like series, so of course I was going to write a series not just one book!).
I wrote, and wrote, and wrote some more. Loving all my characters and exploring all kinds of situations. They were all fully developed characters, very much alive to me. They each had their own storyline. And filled up a first book that was about 230k words long.
I was thrilled. And – needless to say – very unaware of the market.
As you can imagine, that manuscript didn’t find a home. And I started to realize that maybe I needed to learn about craft and do some market research. I bought some books on writing and the market, revised the manuscript, signed up for an online class… and met some other writers.
For the first time, I had someone I could share with. For the first time, I wasn’t alone as a writer.
That first class, where I signed up to learn more about craft and the market, actually gave me something much more valuable: contact with fellow writers.
Through that first contact, that first experience getting and giving feedback, also came the suggestion to join a local crit group. When I admitted to having no idea how to find one, a fellow writer-now-friend suggested I join my local chapter of SCBWI (Society for Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators).
I did. And discovered a whole new world: the writing community.
Not only were there crit groups but also workshops, conferences, opportunities to meet industry professionals and get their feedback – and most importantly, fellow creatives.
Joining SCBWI was probably the best thing I could ever have done for my writing. It gave me a network of fellow creatives to learn with, to share with. Here, I found other people with the same passion for children’s literature, all at different stages of their path to (and after) publication. We understood each other, the ups and downs, the various stages of excitement, frustration, hope and fear that we all feel – even after getting a contract.
And although it’s true that when you sit down and write you are alone, it doesn’t mean you have to be a recluse. In fact, one of the things I have come to cherish as a writer is the writing community.
This past weekend, for example, I went to the Book Bound Retreat in Kent, UK (pictured above). It was heaven. A beautiful manor house, amazing professionals sharing their experience and knowledge, committed and dedicated fellow writers – most of whom I had never met before – and time to discuss our work and dig in deeper.
The Book Bound Retreat was amazing, for many reasons, but the one that sticks out the most for me was the way everyone came together and shared. We went from being strangers to a warm, supportive group in less than an afternoon. And although a large part of that was due to the humor and warmth of the people running the event (hats off to Sara Grant, Sara O’Connor and Karen Ball!), it also came from each of the participants. Every single person there was working on getting their story to its best and was supportive of everyone else. And that’s what makes the writing community so special. The support, the understanding, the willingness to share and be there for the ups and the downs.
Ultimately, we write our books alone – but we don’t have to go down the writer path alone.
In fact, now that I know what it’s like to have a supportive network, writer friends who understand the journey and the excitement of writing ‘the end’ dozens of times for each manuscript, I can’t imagine not having all my fellow creatives on the path with me!
For those wondering how to meet fellow creatives, here are a few that have worked for me:
- joining a writers group like SCBWI (for everything from picture books to young adult)
- attending a retreat like Book Bound or one run by your local chapter of SCBWI/other writers group
- attending workshops and conferences (they can be local, national or international – each will have a different flavor, but all bring something special)
- taking online classes
- joining an online writers community like Savvy Authors (they have classes, writing groups, forums etc.)
- attending local author events at a library, a bookstore, a community center
- if you are living overseas (as I am) you can often find something through your country’s national group like FAWCO (Federation of American Women’s Clubs Overseas) or the British Women’s Club.
And what about you? How have you found fellow creatives? What has your experience been like?
Happy writing to all!
Born in the US, Dina von Lowenkraft has lived on 4 continents, worked as a graphic artist for television and as a consultant in the fashion industry. Somewhere between New York and Paris she picked up an MBA and a black belt. Dina is currently the Regional Advisor for SCBWI Belgium, where she lives with her husband, two children, three horses and a cat. Dina loves to create intricate worlds filled with conflict and passion. She builds her own myths while exploring issues of belonging, racism and the search for truth… after all, how can you find true love if you don’t know who you are and what you believe in? Dina’s key to developing characters is to figure out what they would be willing to die for. And then pushing them to that limit. Dina’s debut YA Fantasy, Dragon Fire, was a finalist in ForeWord Reviews’ 2013 Book of the Year Award, in the 2014 Eric Hoffer Award and in the 2014 Readers’ Favorite Award.